Questionably Fabulous

In an effort to protect the innocent I’ve changed all names except my own for this TRUE story.  I am putting it in as the Main Posting for today but also as the QF Man because, to be honest, it is that good of a story.

Last fall, when I was still living in Baltimore, a girl named Cindy had a birthday party.  Cindy and I have met several times at several different mutual friends’ parties but never clicked.  The day after the party my friend Dylan, who was at Cindy’s party, called her and asked about a girl he’d met there named Brenda.  Cindy did what every girl does – called her friend Brenda and said “Hey, remember Dylan from my party?  He’s wants to get your number, is that cool?”

Brenda said no.  She wasn’t interested and Cindy passed the news on.

Several months later it was my birthday and both Dylan and Brenda attended my birthday gathering.  After the party Dylan called me to ask about Brenda.  I called Brenda and she told me that he’d already tried to get her number from Cindy.  The three of us girls had a riot with Dylan’s persistency.

I broke the bad news to Dylan, also relaying that it was fairly odd that he’d tried once before and failed to tell me about that.  I tried to coach him a little on girls and what makes us tick etc.  He seemed to take direction well enough.

A few days later I wrote a mass email to everyone including thanks for the celebration and funny pictures from the night’s mayhem.  Dylan did something that is way over the line – he got Brenda’s email address off of my mass email list and emailed her.

Needless to say Brenda was not pleased because she though I’d given him her info after she asked me not to.  I was equally as upset because he’d gone and done something so stalker-like and I was getting blamed.

Once again I tried to coach Dylan, explaining why what he did was unacceptable and worse – creepy. 

I spoke to Dylan in August of this year, he’s happily in a serious relationship with someone new, and things are looking up in the area of love and work.

So tell me, why is it that in July of this year, Brenda got this email:

— On Mon, 7/14/08, <Dylan> wrote:

> From: <Dylan>

> Subject: Hi

> To: <Brenda>

> Date: Monday, July 14, 2008, 10:01 AM

> Brenda, I just wanted to drop you a line and say Hi.

> I’m Dylan, AC’s friend, who thought you

> were cool and cute. We met last November while out in

> Baltimore. AC will be visiting next month. She is attending

> a wedding in the area and will be here for a long

> weekend. Anyway, I would like to know how you are? I think

> it would be great if we connected? I attached a few photos.

> Dylan

Honestly, I cannot figure this out.  These are the pictures my friend Dylan thinks will help him win a girl over that already rejected him twice?  And also, where did the lovely, serious, long term relationship that he has in August come from if this is how he is behaving in July?  Please, someone, explain this to me!