Questionably Fabulous

Um, so duh, we lost two incredible people yesterday.  I don’t mean to belittle these losses, but I wanted to put my Questionably Fabulous spin on it all, per a request I got from a reader.  Um, side note, did you just read that?  I have readers!  So surreal for me.  This is freaking happening.  Ok, I’ll stop being so questionably fabulous and get back on track…

Death is a very personal thing.  And I think we get a certain amnesia when a person passes.  This same kind of amnesia sets in when a break up occurs.  Per a VERY fabulous book by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, Its Called a Break-Up Because its Broken (more famously known for He’s Just Not That Into You) when a relationship ends and its not necessarily by your choice you tend to only remember the good things about that person.  When someone dies it’s almost never by choice (suicides and intentional murders aside) so the relationship does end un-preferably.  And so, with the passing of Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson we of course reflect on the amazing contributions that these icons gave to the world.

But what about the negative things that were caused by people who pass?  I for the life of me cannot think of one think or incident that was negative that surrounded our feather haired pin up girl…  Well, maybe that her fits of inadequate pay prevented a second season of Charlie’s Angels with the full and regular original cast…  But really, nothing.  I mean, she prolly still brings, um, “tears” to many a man if you catch my drift.  And while the loss of life is tragic regardless of when it comes, I think we can all agree that after her admirable and daunting fight with cancer, it was time for her to be relieved of the suffering.  She left this world as gracefully as she whipped out her gun back in glory days.

Michael Jackson on the other hand, there is one major negative blip on my radar.

Let me back up and say that with celebrity comes crazy.  Lets list the ways, Brittany Spears – a little crazy; Gary Busey – a little crazy; Mel Gibson – a little crazy; Janice Dickenson – a little crazy; Robin Williams – a little crazy; I could go on an on.  Now I’m not saying that we aren’t a little crazy, Lord knows I’m as f-ed up as the next guy but fame seems to attract it.  And I’m also not saying that the above random list of people aren’t incredibly talented and whose work I don’t adore…  What woman wasn’t in love with Mel Gibson at one point in their life?  Who doesn’t think Robin Williams is hysterical?  Who doesn’t feel bad that Gary Busey went crazy because of drugs?  Regardless, actors / artists are a little crazy.  I’m just sayin’.

And I also want to mention that psychiatric medicine is the only field of medical study that there are NO absolutes and NO cures and NOT ONE solid course of treatment.  The only other profession besides psychology where it’s ok to be wrong most of the time is baseball.  Um, someone’s batting average is .4 and they are revered…  Why?  .4 means that they fail 60% of the time – am I the only one who thinks that is hella strange? Please note that I don’t mean to say I think psychological work is bunk.  I actually am in full support of self help and reflection into your image and your patterns and finding ways to make improvements in your life, on your outlook and I think that the process of self analysis is key in the health of a person.  And I also think that going to a therapist is as important as going to a physician.  But it really is hit or miss.  And it greatly depends on so many variables that again, we can never be sure.

Ok, so on to MJ.  Cause WOWZA, what a head case.  His doctor’s car was impounded and I feel like it is Anna Nicole Smith all over again except for in the US so we have more “rights” to be all snoop doggy dog all up in his bid-ness.  The man-child lived in the spotlight prior to figuring out who he was and anyone with his upbringing would prolly be doing some stange shit too.  And there is no doubt that Michael Jackson made a lasting impression on this world.  His musical genius is undeniable, his regular person genius – I can’t even get there.

If a child molester was on death row, does the general public morn the loss of his / her life?  I sure don’t.  As a victim of molestation myself, I have to speak out and say that I have very mixed feelings about this father of three passing.  I hope that doesn’t make you hate me – I’m sure I just opened myself up to a world of hate mail.  That is, of course, assuming that I have a world of readers. I know that he was an “alleged” pedophile and that we all have to wonder what is real and what is not.  But I do believe that technical bul-loney aside, he serious wounded several children who I am sure are still working through that ordeal.  So, if we look at him in just that light, is it ok that he’s gone?  And what is going to become of his children?  I definitely feel for those three, Prince, Paris and Blanket.  But lets look at the names alone, were they doing well with MJ as their father?  Have they been abused?  Are they better off with another caretaker?

Yes, King of Pop he was, no argument.  Current contribution to society, questionable.  And not so fabulously questionable.