Questionably Fabulous

Now that The Cannoli is public knowledge it’s been pretty interesting hearing / seeing people’s reactions to the announcement.  In true form of my life, several have been completely Questionable…  And some are not even Questionably Fabulous.

Let’s start with family.  Everyone was overjoyed and excited.  But my father-in-law’s first words out of his mouth were “Oh.  How did that happen?” To which both Bryan and I paused… and then burst out laughing.  We answered with “Well, we were in Italy…”  LOL

Good friends who we told “face to face” (via Skype) were all excited, some were shocked it happened so quickly, which honestly we were too, but shocked in a great way.  Other friends that found out via Facebook have, for the most part, been excited.  Both of our pages have been flooded with words of congratulations and excitement.  We’ve gotten emails from others wanting to know all the details, see every picture etc.  It really has been eye opening to see how many people really love and support us.  Lots are people we didn’t realize were so willing to help out.  Overall it has been a tremendous outpouring of Cannoli Celebrations. 

And then there are some others…  And this is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while but have always been afraid of offending the people this is about.  And then today I realized, those people aren’t even happy about my pregnancy, they are surely not reading my blog!  And if they are, they are prolly clueless to the point that they wouldn’t even know this was about them.  Makes me think of the Carley Simon Song “I betcha think this song is about you, you’re so vain!” But the opposite.  LOL

So, I used to live in Baltimore and then I moved to San Luis Obispo and now I live in London.  When I moved from Baltimore to SLO I left a lot of amazing people who I thought for sure were friends for life.  There were women who had seen me through surgeries and heart ache.  There were women who partied hard with me at my most spontaneous and carefree moments and there were women who traveled the world with me.  I left roommates behind and in my heart it felt like I was leaving my family.  I would have put my life on the line stating that I was going to still be friends with these people for the rest of my life.

And then reality set in.  I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t to blame for some of the failed relationships.  I for sure didn’t call or email a lot of people the way I promised…  And I have some regrets about it but for the most part I knew that those people were the types of friends that were part of the natural cycle of friends.  It’s true that there is an inevitable ebb and flow to friendships – people come in and out of your life at the same time, filling roles that you need etc.  Those friendships weren’t broken or killed off – we are still on Facebook and I enjoying seeing what they are up and I’m sure visa versa…  But there are others who I went the extra mile for before moving and thought for sure they’d want to maintain a friendship with me.  I’d call and leave messages, email and get one word responses…  It’s very sad to me and something that I’m still not completely “over”.  But my baby?  You’re going to shun my baby?  Homey don’t play that and I cannot for the life of me let it go. 

Here are a few reactions I’ve gotten…  Any advice on how to respond would be greatly appreciated…  Bryan says to live and let live…  To let it go, accept that those friends are not the people I thought they were and understand that now that I’m a parent not everyone will be as excited about the new life as we are.  To him I stick my tongue out and say “I want them to be happy!”  What’s wrong with that??? 

What or who is this lil cannoli for?? Did I miss something????? Uh, yea you missed something you blind idiot!  If I was late to the party on something like a person’s pregnancy and I saw something that I wasn’t sure announced it, I’d go to the page, get filled in and then say, oh, I dunno… CONGRATUALTIONS?

WHAT!!!! Jeez congrats!!! Jeez?  Jeez?  Really, what the fuck does that mean?  But, at least this person said “congrats” so I guess I can’t be too upset… Or can I?  LOL

how did you keep this to yourself?!?!  I feel the “?!?!” implies excitement so I let this go but I get the feeling that this person felt like they should have found out before the Facebook announcement.

OMG! Are you pregnant!??!?!! Congrats AC! I am so happy for you two! How far along are you?  I sooooo was tempted to write “No, I’m not pregnant, why would you ask?” But the rest was so upbeat and supportive and interested I didn’t. 

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ARE YOU SERIOUS!!>!>! COngrats!!! SO happy for you both!!!! xxx  Again, this first sentebse was a little odd…  I was tempted to write “JUST KIDDING” but also, again, the rest of the post clearly was filled with excitement.

I could not make this up if I tried…  But literally 5 minutes after I wrote this post and published it on my website this reaction just posted on my Facebook wall.  Also right after I posted more sonogram / Baby Cannoli pictures on my page.  Wait! What?!?!?!? You are preggers??????????????????????????????????????